Proposal Nikah

Background
Mother and father that I respect, I love and care, may God always bless our steps and not a dotted give pleasure to us. Amen
Mother and father are very sebagaihamba God .. I respect, I have been given many blessings. True God Almighty has said: "We will show us the signs on the horizon-horizon and within themselves, so they can know clearly that God is true and Seer of all things."
Favors the disposition of which is a biological need, need each other to the opposite sex .. namely: Married! Nature of God which has been attached to human life, and if people violate the nature of the gift of God, is the destruction of the obtainment .. Na'udzubillah! And God has said: "Do not approach adultery, because adultery is bad again dirty deeds" (Surat al-Israa ': 32).
Mother and Father .. loved seeing the young association dewasaitu very worrying indeed, they seemed unconsciously doing immoral deeds to God. As if, pat on the head they are just the thoughts that lead to artificial and momentary happiness. Not to mention if you asked them about getting married. "I was not thinking about married, busy work, and besides I still collect stuff first," or work not yet well established, yet quite ready to settle ยก ย จ once they say, but what the heck they lack. Hopefully I can survive and be patient so that no sinner. And Allaah knows best.
.. Dear mother and father talked about the association of young people who tend to be free in general, it was not enough for me torehkan this ink. Every time I write a young event dimajalah Islam, at the same time there is also a new event that demands our attention Astaghfirullah .. .. Mother and father .. This is such a background I want to hasten to marry.
Rationale
From Al Qur ยก ย ฆ's and Al Hadith:
1. 'And nikahkanlah people who are alone among you, and those worthy (married) of a male slave sahayamu and sahayamu servants are women. IF THEY POOR GOD BE WITH THEM MENGKAYAKAN grace. And Allah Area (gift) and All-Knowing. (Surah An Nuur (24): 32).
2. "And we made everything in pairs, so you remember the greatness of God." (Surat adh Dzariyaat (51): 49).
3. ย จ Blessed is He who has created-pasangansemuanya pair, both from what is grown on the earth and of themselves and of what they do not know ยก ย จ (Surah Ya Sin (36): 36).
4. For those of you that God created pairs (the wives) of your own kind, then from your wives that He created for you children and grandchildren descent, and to you He has given the good fortune (Surah An Nahl (16) : 72).
5. And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and maketh among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for those who think. (Surah Ar. Rum (30): 21).
6. And those who believe, men and women, They will (are) to be protective (helper) for sebahagian another. They told (doing) that ma'ruf, preventing from the munkar, establish prayer, pay the obligatory charity, and they obey God and His Messenger. They were akandiberi grace of God Allah is Mighty, Wise (Surah At-Tauba (9): 71).
7. O people, bertaqwalah you all to your Lord who created you one himself, then he made thereof soul mate, then He kembangbiakkan be men and women who are many. (Surah An Nisa (4): 1).
8. Women are good for is a good man. A good man is good for women too (and vice versa). For them forgiveness and abundant Reski (ie Paradise) (Surat an Nuur (24): 26).
9. .. So nikahilah women (other) you like two, three, or four. Then if ye fear that ye can not do justice, then (nikahilah) only one .. (Surah An Nisaa '(4): third).
10. And it is not proper for the Believers, men nor for women who mukminah when Allah and His Messenger have set an assessment will be there for them other choices about their affairs. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Apostle then surely he has committed clear error. (Surat al-Ahzaab (33): 36).
11. Suggestions for Married Prophet: The Prophet SAW said: "Nikah was sunnahku, anyone who does not like, not from!" (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, from A'ishah).
12. Four kinds of Sunnah-sunnah of the Apostles are: Compassionate, wearing perfume, bersiwak and married (Narrated by Tirmidhi).
13. From Ayesha, 'Nikahilah ye women, then they will bring in wealth (fortune) for you ยก ย จ (narrated by Hakim and Abu Dawood). 14.Jika there are people not living with her partner, it means his life will be lame and do not walk in accordance with the provisions of Allah and those who married means complete religion, the word of Prophet Muhammad: "Whoever has God given a wife who Sholihah, actually has helped half of his religion. And let the other half devoted to God. '(Narrated by al-Bayhaqi).
14. From Amr ibn As, the World is the best jewelry and women's jewelry is shalihat. (Narrated by Muslim, Ibn Majah and An Nasai).
15. "Three groups are entitled to be helped by Allah (Narrated by Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibbaan and Justice): a.Orang who fought / fight in the way of Allah. B.yang redeem himself from his master. C. / i are getting married because she wants to distance himself from the illegitimate. "
16. "O young people! If among you are able to marry, let him marry, because the eye will be more awake, the pubic would be preserved." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud.)
17. Kawinlah with a woman who loves you and is able to give birth. Indeed I will boast of you as a people in most (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
18. You marry each other, make mutual keturunanlah you, and perbanyaklah (descent). Indeed I am proud of the many in number at the middle of another race (Narrated by Abdurrazak and Bayhaqi).
19. Prayers 2 cycles of diamalkan people who are married better, than 70 cycles are diamalkan by the bachelor (or virgin) (Narrated Ibn Al Kamil Ady in the book of Abu Hurairah).
20. Prophet Muhammad. He said: "That bad, bad you, is unmarried, and sehina insulted your body, is not married" (Narrated by Bukhari.)
21. Among the worst of all you are celibate, and the death of you all the most despicable is the death of people who choose to live celibate (Narrated by Abu Ya ยก ย ฆ He and Thabrani).
22. From Anas, the Prophet SAW. have said: Those who want to meet Allah in a state of pure clean again, then kawinkanlah with respectable women. (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, da'eef).
23. Rasulullah SAW said: Kawinkanlah people who are still alone among you. Verily, Allah will edify, extend sustenance, and add to their grandeur (Al Hadith).
Destination Weddings
1. Implement the commands of Allah and Sunnah.
2. Continuing generation of Muslims as carrier Islamic message.
3. Realising Muslim family towards the Muslim community.
4. Getting the love and affection.
5. Peace of Soul by maintaining self-respect (refrain from immoral acts / behavior of other despicable).
6. To be rich (the best richness is the wife who shalihat).
7. Broadening the kinship (connecting rope Hospitality / strengthen kinship ties)
Personal Readiness
1. Qalb condition that has been steadily and increasingly confident after istikharah. Prophet Muhammad. He said: ยก ยง Man Jadda wa Jadda ยก ย จ (Who seriously he will work through those obstacles.)
2. Including compulsory marriage (hard to shaum).
3. Termasuktathhir (purify themselves).
4. Materially, Insha Allah ready. ยก ยง Let the people who are able to give their living according to his ability ยก ย จ (Surat at THALAQ (65): 7)
Due to delay or complicate Weddings
ยง Damage and moral decay due to dating and free sex.
Delayed birth of the next generation ยง treatise.
ยง No composure of spirit and feeling, as the new God give peace and compassion for people who get married.
Bearing ยง sin in the Hereafter, because they do not get married while doing duty that Allah and His Messenger conditions set are met.
Moreover ยง contact with the opposite sex who is not mahramnya. Prophet Muhammad. said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, he must not bersunyi quiet alone with a woman who is not accompanied by mahramnya, for which a third party is the devil." (Narrated by Ahmad) and "It's one of the head of you being stabbed with needles of iron is better, than women who are not permitted to touch him" (Narrated by Thabrani and Bayhaqi) .. Astaghfirullahaladzim .. Na'udzubillahi min dzalik
However, it generally happens in the community surrounding the marriage is as following
ย ท no longer the noble status of taqwa, but that carried the title: Ir, DR, SE SH, ST, etc.
ย ท wedding a wah / bride-price is high, because it is a pride, not a full ketawadhu'an held in accordance with capabilities. (Marriage should based solely seeking pleasure of Allah and His Messenger.'s Not in interfere with the pleasure of hope darimanusia (flattery, they say bad). .. I'm sure if God pleased at what we do, then we will be safe in the world and in the Hereafter).
ย ท Marriage is considered a barrier to please parents.
ย ท Society considers marriage will be making studies, but just with vision to marry more awake than things that are forbidden, and the spirit of completing college.
Improve Intention:
Innamal a'malu binniyat ....... Intention is the resurrection of soul and trends in what appeared to him in the form demanded an important goal for her, either immediate or deferred.
Intention When Choosing Assistance
Prophet said "Whoever is married (her daughter) because the glare of riches despite his bad faith and ruqyah, it will never dibarakahi his wedding, Who married a woman because of his position, God will add to her humiliation, Who would marry her because of wealth, God will only give her poverty, Who married a good woman because nasabnya, God will add humility to him, But who was married just because you want to keep the views and desires or because they want to deepen compassion, God always gives kebarakahan blessings and add it to her. "( HR. Thabrani.)
"Do not marry a woman because of her beauty, just maybe beauty it makes you despicable. Do not you marry a woman because property / his throne might be treasure / throne made you exceed the limit. However nikahilah women because of his religion. Because, a pious slave woman who, though ugly face is more mainstream. " (Narrated by Ibnu Majah).
Prophet SAW. He said: Do not you marry a close relative, because (consequently) a weak to bear children (both intellect and physical) (Al Hadith).
From Jabir r.a., Lo Prophet. had said, ยก ยง fact that women marry men because of his religion, position, wealth, and beauty, so choose a religion. "(Narrated by Muslim and Tirmidhi.) Intention of Marriage Process
Problems do not stop until the vote intention companion. Intention still accompany various matters pertaining to the wedding. Starting from giving dowry, spread walimah invitations, organizing walimah. Walimah more than two days closer to harm, being walimah third day including riya '. "Give mahr (dowry) to the woman (who you marry) as a gift with great eagerness." (Surat An Nisaa (4): 4).
Rasulullah SAW said: "Women are the most sublime barakahnya, is the lightest maharnya" (Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi with a saheeh chain). From Aisha, that the Prophet SAW. hath said, 'Surely the great blessings of marriage is a simple shopping (maharnya) "(Narrated by Ahmad). Prophet Muhammad had promised: "Do not mempermahal value of dowry. Surely if he was noble in the world and piety in Allah, the Prophet himself who would become her marriage guardian." (Narrated by Ashhabus Sunan.) From Anas, he said: "Abu Talha married with dowry of Umm Sulaim become Muslim" (Ditakhrij of An Nasa'i) .. Subhanallah ..
The process of marriage affects intention. The process is simple and easy wedding, God willing, will bring the net intent, facilitate the process of marriage can clear intention. While the wedding will make the process more mengkotori intentions. "Please cut the celebration even if only one goat." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
Weddings must fulfill the criteria Lillah, Billah, and Ilallah. What is meant Lillah, intention is that marriage must be because of God. The process and the way he must Billah in accordance with provisions of God .. Included in the selection of candidates, and the process toward the level of marriage (net of courtship / lust or not). Last Ilallah, the goal in order to reach keridhoan God.
So in the administration of marriage is not adulterous in God, for example: the separation between male and female guests, no exaggeration, do not eat standing up (courtesy of food-party standing in the community usually this should be avoided, but it is not exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad that such ), Bride is not juxtaposed, adab mendo'akan bride with a prayer: Barokallahu baroka laka wa 'alaikum wa jama'a baynakuma Khoir FII .. (May Allah membarakahi you and bestow blessings to you), do not shake hands with the opposite gender, not excessively ornate ("And do not bertabarruj (decorated) as the first tabarrujnya ignorance" - Qs. Al-Ahzab (33),
Reaching spiritual Weddings
If someone is already filled with love and longing in God, then he will try to find someone who is together with them. Psychologically, a person will feel calm and at ease if side by side with the same person with him, either dalamperasaan, outlook on life and so forth. Therefore, blessed are someone who can feel the love of God from his life partner, that person is in the heart of God is fully present. They loved each other rather than on behalf of themselves, but in the name of God and for God.
How wonderful meeting of two beings who love and miss God's. Their marriage is not merely a meeting of two different personality types, but the confluence of two who are pursuing a spiritual journey towards God, love their loved ones. That is what is meant by spiritual marriage. If we QUALITY IN SIDE GOD, SURE WHICH ONE WILL ALSO COME (FOR OUR Soul Mate) WHICH BERKUALITASPULA (Al Izzah 18 / Th. 2)
Cover
'O, believers! Do not forbid what was permitted by God to you and do not exceed the limits, because God does not love to those who exceed the limits. (Surah al Maidaah (5): 87).
Because actual ease after difficulty there. And indeed there is ease hardship (Surah Nasyrah Nature (94): 5 - 6).
Mother and father that I respect, my dear and I love the name of Allah .. demikanlah this proposal (by nature) I write. I really hope that mother and father .. understand my desire. Top blessing and prayer from Mother and Father .. I say "Jazakumullah Khairan katsiira". "O Allah, make me pleased to anything that you set and make the blessing what telahEngkau destined, so it does not want me to hasten what you delay and put off what you segerakan YA .. IN GOD Give reward MUSIBAHKU and replace Dion TIMES THIS BETTER .. Amiin THEREOF "

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