A. Khutbah Nikah of the Prophet when married his daughter Fatima al-Zahra
اَلْحَمْدُ للهِ الْمَحْمُوْدِ بِنِعْمَتِهِ الْمَعْبُوْدِ بِقُدْرَتِهِ الْمُطَاعِ بِسُلْطَانِهِ الْمَرْهُوْبِ مِنْ عَذَابِهِ وَسَطْوَتِهِ النَّافِذِ أَمْرُهُ فِي سَمَا ئِهِ وَأَرْضِهِ, الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْخَلْقَ بِقُدْرَتِهِ وَمَيَّزَهُمْ بِأَحْكَامِهِ وَأَعَزَّهُمْ بِدِيْنِهِ وَأَكْرَمَهُمْ بِنَبِيِّهِ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ. إِنَّ اللهَ تَبَارَكَ اسْمُهُ وَتَعَالَتْ عَظَمَتْهُ جَعَلَ الْمُصَاهَرَةُ سَبَبًا لاَ حِقًا وَأَمْرًا مُفْتَرَضًا أَوْشَجَ بِهِ اْلأَرْحَامَ وَأَلْزَمَ اْلأَنَامَ. فَقَالَ عَزَّ مِنْ قَائِلٍ "وَهُوَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ مِنَ الْمَاء بَشَرًا فَجَعَلَهُ نَسَبًا وَصِهْرًا وَكَانَ رَبُّكَ قَدِيرًا (الفرقان:54) " فَأَمْرُالله يَجْرِي عَلَى قَضَائِهِ وَقَضَاؤُهُ يَجْرِي اِلَى قَدَرِهِ, وَلِكُلِّ قَضَاءٍ قَدَرٍ وَلِكُلِّ قَدَرٍ أَجَلٌ وَلِكُلِّ أَجَلٍ كِتَابٌ "يَمْحُو اللَّهُ مَا يَشَاء وَيُثْبِتُ وَعِندَهُ أُمُّ الْكِتَابِ (الرعد:39)"
إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ للهِ نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِيْنُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ وَنَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَسَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا, مَنْ يَهْدِ اللهُ فَلاَ مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلاَ هَادِيَ لَهُ. وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ الله ُوَحْدَهُ لاَ شَرِْيكَ لَهُ, وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعَلَى أَلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ "يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اتَّقُواْ اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلاَ تَمُوتُنَّ إِلاَّ وَأَنتُم مُّسْلِمُونَ (ال عمران:102). يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَاْلاَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا (النساء:1). "يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلاً سَدِيدًا .يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ وَمَن يُطِعْ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزًا عَظِيمًا (الأحزاب:71-70)."
أَمَّ بَعْدُ,فَإِنَّ اْلاُمُورَكُلَّهَابِيَدِاللهِ, يَقْضِي فِيْهَا مَا يَشَاءُ وَيَحْكُمُ مَا يُرِيْدُ,لاَ مُؤَخِّرَ لِمَا قَدَّمَ وَلاَ مُقَدِّمَ لِمَا أَخَّرَ, وَلاَ يَجْتَمِعُ اْثنَانِ وَلاَ يَفْتَرِقَانِ إِلاَّ بِقَضَاءٍ وَقَدَّرٍ وَكِتَابٍ مِنَ اللهِ قَدْ سَبَقَ. أَقُوْلُ قَوْلِي هَذاَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرَاللهَ اْلعَظِيْمِ لِي وَلَكُمْ وَوَالِوَالِدِيْكُمْ وَلِمَشَايِخِي وَلِسَائِرِ اْلمُسْلِمِيْنَ فَاسْتَغْفِرُوْهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَ اْلغَفُوْرٌ الرَّحِيْمُ.
B. Khutbah Nikah by Muhammad Cholil Madura on his book “as-Silaah fi Ahkamin Nikaah”
أَلْحَمْدُ للهِ الَّذِيْ خَلَقَ مِنَ اْلمَاءِ بَشَرًا فَجَعَلَهُ نَسَبًا وَصَهْرًا.خَلَقَ أَدَمَ ثُمَّ خَلَقَ زَوْجَهُ حَوَاءَ مِنْ ضِلْعٍ مِنْ أَضْلاَعِهِ اْليُسْرَ. فَلَمَّا سَكَنَ إِلَيْهَا قَالَت اْلمَلاَئِكَةُ ياَ أَدَمَ حَتىَّ تُؤَدِّي لَهَا مَهْرًا.قَالَ وَماَ مَهْرَهَا؟ قَالُوْا أَنْ تُصَلِّيَ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ خَاتَمِ النَّبِيِّيْنَ وَإِمَامِ الْمُرْسَلِِيْنَ. فَوَفَّى الْمَهْرَ وَخَطَبَ اْلأَمِيْنُ جِبْرِيْلُ عَلَيْهِ السَّلاَمُ. وَزَوَّجَهَا لَهُ عَلَى ذَلِكَ الْمَلِكُ اْلقُدُّوْسُ السَّلاَمُ. وَشَهِدَ إِسْرَافِيْلُ وَمِيْكَائِيْلُ وَبَعْدُ الْمُقَرَّبِيْنَ بِدَارِ السَّلاَمِ. فَصَارَذَلِكَ سُنَّةَ أَوْلاَدِهِ عَلَى تَعَاقُبِ السِّنِيْنَ.
أَحْمَدُهُ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مََّوَدَّةً وَّرَحْمَةً. وَأَشْكُرُهُ أَنْ جَعَلَكُمْ شُعُوْبًا وَقَبَائِلَ بِالتَّنَاسُلِ الَّذِي هُوَ أَصْلُ كُلِّ نِعْمَةِ.
وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ مُبْدِعُ نِظَامِ اْلعَالمَِ عَلَى أَكْمَلِ حِكْمَةٍ. لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَتَبَارَكَ اللهُ رَبُّ الْعَالَمِيْنَ. وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ سَيِّدَنَا مُحَمَّدًا رَسُوْلُ اللهِ حَبِيْبُ الرَّحْمَنِ وَمُجْتَبَاهُ اْلقَائِلُ. حُبِّبَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ دُنْيَاكُمُ النِّسَاءُ وَالطِّيْبُ وَجُعِلَتْ قُرَّةُ عَيْنِي فِي الصَّلاَةِ. وَقاَلَ صَلىَّ الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: ياَ مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ اْلبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ. فَطُوْبَى لِمَنْ أَقَرَّ بِذَلِكَ عَيْنِ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعَلَى أَلِهِ وَصَحْبِهِ وَالتَّابِعِيْنَ.
أَمَّا بَعْدُ, فَإِنَّ النِّكاَحَ مِنَ السُّنَنِ الْمَرْغُوْبَةِالَّتِيْ عَلَيْهَا عَلَيْهَا مَدَارُ اْلإِسْتِقَامَةِ إِذَ مَنْ تَزَوَّجَ فَقَدْ كَمُلَ نِصْفُ دِيْنِهِ كَمَا أَخْبَرَ بِذَلِكَ الْحَبِيْبُ الْمَبْعُوْثُ مِنْ تِهَامَةَ.وَقَالَ صَلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: تَنَاكَحُوا تَنَاسَلُوا فَإِنِّي مُبَاهٍ بِكُمُ اْلأُمَمَ يَوْمَ اْلقِيَامَةِ. وَقَدْ حَثَّ عَلَيْهِ الْمَنَّانُ بِقَوْلِهِ: وَأَنْكِحُ اْلأَيَامَ مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِيْنَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ, إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَاللهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيْمٌ (النور:32). وَهَذَا عَقْدٌ مُبَارَكٌ مَيْمُوْنٌ وَاجْتِمَاعٌ عَلَى حُصُولِ خَيْرٍيَكُوْنُ إِنْ شَاءَ اللهُ الَّذِي إِذَا أَرَادَ شَيْئًا أَنْ يَقُوْلَ لَهُ كُنْ فَيَكُوْنُ.
أَقُوْلُ قَوْلِي هَذَا وَأَسْتَغْفِرُاللهَ اْلعَظِيْمَ لِي وَلَكُمْ وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَوَالِدِيْكُمْ وَلِمَشَايِخِي وَمَشَايِخِكُمْ وَلِسَائِرِ الْمُسْلِمِيْنَ وَالْمُسْلِمَاتِ, فَاسْتَغْفِرُوْهُ إِنَّهُ هُوَالْغَفُوْرٌالرَّحِيْمُ.....
أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ اْلعَظِيْمِ....أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللهَ وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا رَسُوْلُ اللهَ
C. Khutbah Nikah reported from Ibn Mas'ud RA and added to by al-Qaffal
إِنَّ الْحَمْدَ للهِ نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِيْنُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ وَنَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَسَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا, مَنْ يَهْدِ اللهُ فَلاَ مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلاَ هَادِيَ لَهُ. وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ الله ُوَحْدَهُ لاَ شَرِْيكَ لَهُ, وَأَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَعَلَى أَلِهِ وَأَصْحَابِهِ
"يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اتَّقُواْ اللَّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلاَ تَمُوتُنَّ إِلاَّ وَأَنتُم مُّسْلِمُونَ (ال عمران:102). يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا (النساء:1). "يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلاً سَدِيدًا .يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ وَمَن يُطِعْ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزًا عَظِيمًا (الأحزاب:71-70)."
أَمَّ بَعْدُ, فَإِنَّ اْلأُمُوْرَ كُلَّهَا بِيَدِاللهِ يَقْضِيْ فِيْهَا مَا يَشَاءُ وَيَِحْكُمُ مَا يُرِيْدُ, لاَ مُؤَخِّرَ لِمَا قَدَّمَ وَلاَ مُقَدِّمَ لِمَا أَخَّرَ, وَلاَ يَجْتَمِعُ اْثنَانِ وَلاَ يَفْتَرِقَانِ إِلاَّ بِقَضَاءِ وَقَدَرٍ,وَكِتَابٍ مِنَ اللهِ قَدْ سَبَقَ, وَإِنَّ مِمَّا قَضَى الله ُوَقَدَّرَ أَنْ خَطَبَ ..فُلاَن بْنَ فُلاَنَ..فُلاَنَةْ بِنْتِ فُلاَنْ عَلىَ صِدَاقِ..
أَقُوْلُ قَوْلِي هَذَا وَأَسْتَغْفِرُاللهَ اْلعَظِيْمَ لِي وَلَكُمْ وَلِجَمِيْعِ الْمُسْلِمِيْنَ. فَاسْتَغْفِرُوْهُ إِِنَّهُ هُوَاْلغَفُوْرٌ الرَّحِيْمٌ.
D.Another Khutbah Nikah
اَلْحَمْدُ للهِ نَحْمَدُهُ وَنَسْتَعِيْنُهُ وَنَسْتَغْفِرُهُ وَنَعُوذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ اَنْفُسِنَا وَسَيِّأَتِ اَعْمَالِنَا مَنْ يَهْدِ الله ُفَلاَ مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلاَ هَادِيَ لَهُ. اَشْهَدُ اَنْ لاَ اِلَهَ اِلاَّ الله ُوَحْدَهُ لاَشَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَاَشْهَدُ اَن َّ سَيِّدَنَا مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ اَرْسَلَُ بِالْهُدَى وَدِيْنِ الْحَقَّ لِيُظْهِرَهُ عَلَى الدِّيْنِ كُلِّهِ وَلَوْ كَرِهَ الْمُشْرِكُوْنَ, اَمَّا بَعْدُ.
فَاِنَّ الله َتَعَالَى اَحَلَّ النِّكَاحَ وَنَدَبَ اِلَيْهِ وَحَرَّمَ السِّفَاحَ وَاَوْعَدَ الْعَذَابَ اْلاَلِيْمَ عَلَيْهِ. فَقَالَ تَعَالَى وَلاَ تَقْرَبُواالزِّناَ اِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيْلاً. فَقَالَ تَعَالَى يَااَيُّهَاالَّذِيْنَ اَمَنُوْا اتَّقُواالله َحَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلاَ تَمُوْتُنَّ اِلاَّ وَاَنْتُمْ مُسْلِمُوْنَ .وَقَالَ تَعَالىَ يَااَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالاً كَثِيْرًا وَنِسَاءَ وَاتَّقُوا الله َالَّذِي تَسَأَلُوْنَ بِهِ وَاْلاَرْحَامَ اِنَّ اللهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيْبًا.وَقَالَ تَعَالَى يَااَيُّهَا الَّذِيْنَ اَمَنُوْا اتَّقُواالله َوَقُولُوا قَوْلاً سَدِيْدَا يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ اَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوْبَكُمْ وَمَنْ يُطِعِ اللهَ وَرَسُوْلَهُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزًا عَظِيْمًا.
وَقَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ اَحَبَّ فِطْرَتِى فَلْيَسْنَنَّ بِسُنَّتِى وَمِنْ سُنَّتِى النِّكاَحِ. وَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَنَاكَحُوْا تَكْثُرُوا فَاِنِّى اُبَاهِى بِكُمُ اْلاُمَمَ يَوْمَ اْلِقيَامَةِ. وَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ اَلدُّنْيَا مَتَاعً وَخَيْرَ مَتَاعِهَا الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ.وَقَالَ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَزَوَّجُوا اْلوَلُوْدَ اْلوَدُوْدَ فَاِنِّى مُكَاثِرٌ بِكُمُ اْلاُمَمَ يَوْمَ اْلقِيَامَةِ .ثُمَّ اَنَّ النِّكَاحَ سُنَّةُ اْلاَنْبِيَاءِ وَشِعَارُ اْلاَوْلِيَاءِ وَجُنَّةُ اْلاَتْقِيَاءِ.
قُولُوا جَمِيْعًا اَسْتَغْفِرُاللهَ الْعَظِيْم (x3) اَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ مِنْ تَرْكِ الصَّلاَةِ وَمِنَ التَّقْصِيْرِ فِيْهَا وَفِي الزَّكاَةِ.اَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ مِنْ ظُلْمِ اْلعِبَادِ.اَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ مِنْ جَمِيْعِ الْمَعَاصِى وَالذُّنوُبِ. اَشْهَدُ اَنْ لاَ اِلَهَ اِلاَّ الله ُوَاَْشَهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا رَسُولُ اللهُ. اَمَنَّا بِاللهِ وَبِمَا جَاءَ عَنِ اللهِ عَلَى مُرَادِ اللهِ اَمَنَّا بِرَسُوْلِ اللهِ وَبِمَا جَاءَ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ وَاَمَنَّا بِالشَّرِيْعَةِ وَتَبَرَّأْناَ مِنْ كُلِّ دِيْنِ يُخَاِلفُ دِيْنَ اْلاِسْلاَمِ.
أَلْحَمْدُ للهِ الَّذِي جَعَلَ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدً صلى الله عليه وسلم عروس المملكة في السماء وأفضل البشر في الأرض,وبعث الرسول قبله وفضل بعضهم على بعض,فمنح إبراهيماالخلة وموس المناجاةعندتمام وعده,وأتى سليمن ملكا لاينبغي لإحد من بعده,ومنح من شاء من سائر أنبيائه ورسله ما شاء من حصوصيات كرامه وفضله. أحمده حمدا هبت نسمات قبوله على أغصانالتهاني.وأشكره شكرا تبلج بشر سؤله في افق نيل الأماني. وَأَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ الله ُوَحْدَهُ لاَ شَرِْيكَ لَهُ ولا ضد له ولاند له,الذي لا تنفك أفعاله وأقواله عن مصالح وحكم. ولا يسأل عما فعل ولا أمر به وحكم. فمن حكمته الباهرة للعقول استباحة محرمات الفروج.
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19 February 2012
13 February 2011
Wedding of Ali and Fatima
Sitti Fatimah r.a. reach the peak during adolescence and her beauty had brought the message of Prophet Muhammad have advanced rapidly in Medina and surrounding areas. When it Sitti Fatimah r.a. really has become a teenage daughter.
His face a lot of charm to attract attention. Not a few honorable man who took a bet wants to marry the daughter of the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him it. Several prominent people from the immigrants and the Ansar have tried to propose to her. Responding to the proposal, the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. argues, that he was expecting the arrival of instructions from God Almighty about his daughter's.
One day Abu Bakr Siddiq ra, Umar Ibn al-Khatab ra and Sa'ad bin Mu'adh together Apostle of Allah peace be upon him sitting in his mosque. On that occasion discussed among other issues saw the daughter of Allah's Apostle At that time he asked Abu Bakr Siddiq ra: "Are you willing to submit the issue was Fatima to Ali bin Abi Talib?" Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq declared kesediaanya. He moved to contact Imam Ali r.a.
When Imam Ali r.a. saw the arrival of Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq r.a. with hurriedly and surprised she took it, then asked: "You come to bring news?"
After sitting for a brief rest, Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq ra immediately explain the issue: "O Ali, you are the first people who believe in Allah and His Messenger and have more virtue than with others. All the main character there is in you. Similarly, you are the relatives of the Apostle of Allah peace be upon him Some prominent companions submitted application to him to be able to marry his daughter. Application was by him all turned down. He suggested that the issue be submitted to Allah swt daughter, however, O Ali, why until now you had never mentioned his daughter was and why you do not apply for yourself? I wish may Allah and His Messenger will hold it for you princess. "
Hearing the words of Abu Bakr r.a. Imam Ali's eyes r.a. lachrymose. In response to those words, Imam Ali r.a. said: "O Abu Bakr, you have made my heart tremble that semulanya calm. You have been warned something was forgotten. By Allah, I really want Fatimah, but which becomes the only barrier to me is because I do not have anything."
Abu Bakr r.a. Imam Ali was moved to hear the answer that was pitiful. To raise and strengthen the hearts of Imam Ali ra, Abu Bakar ra said: "O Ali, do not you say something like that. For Allah and His Messenger, and everything in this world is just like a mere dust-drenched!"
After the ongoing dialogue as needed, Abu Bakr ra succeeded in pushing the courage of Imam Ali r.a. to apply for a daughter of the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.
Some time later, the Imam Ali r.a. came to the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. that when it was at the residence of Umm Salma. Hearing a knock at the door, Umm Salma asked the Apostle of Allah peace be upon him: "Who is knocking on the door?" Allah's Apostle s.a.w. replied: "Get up and opened the door for him. He was a beloved of Allah and His Messenger, and he loves Allah and His Messenger!" Answer of the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. Umm Salma was not satisfactory r.a. He asked again: "Yes, but who is he?". "He's my brother, my favorite person!" Replied the Holy Prophet
Listed in a lot of history, that Umm Salma later recounts his own experiences regarding the visit of Imam Ali ra to the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. it: "I stood up quickly toward the door, until my feet stumbling. Once the doors opened, it turns out it was people who came to Ali bin Abi Talib. I went back into place. He entered, then say hello and answered by Apostle God saw He was invited to sit in front of him. Ali bin Abi Talib lowered his head, as if to have an intention, but shame about to say it.
Apostle of God precedes said: "O Ali seems you have a need. Say what is in fikiranmu. What you need, will you got me!"
Hear the words of the Apostle of Allah s.a.w. such that, born Ali ibn Abi Talib courage to say: "Forgive, O Messenger of God. You may recall that you have taken me from your uncle, Abu Talib and your aunt, Fatima bint Asad, at a time when I was a child and not understand anything.
Verily Allah has given me through your hidayat well. And you, O Messenger of Allah, is where I take shelter and you, too, who became wasilahku in the world and the hereafter. After God raise me and is now an adult, I want to settle down, live with a wife. Now I come face to apply for your daughter, Fatima. O Messenger of God, are you willing to accept and marry me with him? "
Umm Salma continued his story: "When I saw the Messenger of Allah visible face beaming. With a smile he said to Ali bin Abi Talib:" O Ali, do you have a stock dowry?''. "By Allah", Ali bin Abi Talib replied bluntly, "You yourself know how things were, no anything about me you did not know. I do not have anything other than a suit of armor, a sword and a camel."
"About your sword," said the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. my answer Ali bin Abi Talib, "you still need to continue the struggle in the way of Allah. And untamu that you also need to take water for your family's needs and also you need it in a long journey. Therefore I will marry you only on the basis of a dowry armor only. I'm satisfied to receive the goods from you. O Ali you shall rejoice, for Allah 'Azza wajalla first actually marry you in the sky before I marry you on earth! " Similarly, the version history as told Umm Salma ra
Once everything is ready, with a sense of satisfaction and joy, witnessed by the Companions, the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him words final offer wedding kabul daughter: "Behold, God Almighty commanded me to marry you on the basis of Fatima's dowry 400 dirhams (the value of a suit of armor). I hope you can accept that." "Yes, Messenger of God, that I received very well", said Ali bin Abi Talib ra the wedding. (Imam Ali - Al-Hamid Al-Husaini)
(Source: Bulletin Rabithoh Edition-22)
His face a lot of charm to attract attention. Not a few honorable man who took a bet wants to marry the daughter of the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him it. Several prominent people from the immigrants and the Ansar have tried to propose to her. Responding to the proposal, the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. argues, that he was expecting the arrival of instructions from God Almighty about his daughter's.
One day Abu Bakr Siddiq ra, Umar Ibn al-Khatab ra and Sa'ad bin Mu'adh together Apostle of Allah peace be upon him sitting in his mosque. On that occasion discussed among other issues saw the daughter of Allah's Apostle At that time he asked Abu Bakr Siddiq ra: "Are you willing to submit the issue was Fatima to Ali bin Abi Talib?" Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq declared kesediaanya. He moved to contact Imam Ali r.a.
When Imam Ali r.a. saw the arrival of Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq r.a. with hurriedly and surprised she took it, then asked: "You come to bring news?"
After sitting for a brief rest, Abu Bakar Ash Siddiq ra immediately explain the issue: "O Ali, you are the first people who believe in Allah and His Messenger and have more virtue than with others. All the main character there is in you. Similarly, you are the relatives of the Apostle of Allah peace be upon him Some prominent companions submitted application to him to be able to marry his daughter. Application was by him all turned down. He suggested that the issue be submitted to Allah swt daughter, however, O Ali, why until now you had never mentioned his daughter was and why you do not apply for yourself? I wish may Allah and His Messenger will hold it for you princess. "
Hearing the words of Abu Bakr r.a. Imam Ali's eyes r.a. lachrymose. In response to those words, Imam Ali r.a. said: "O Abu Bakr, you have made my heart tremble that semulanya calm. You have been warned something was forgotten. By Allah, I really want Fatimah, but which becomes the only barrier to me is because I do not have anything."
Abu Bakr r.a. Imam Ali was moved to hear the answer that was pitiful. To raise and strengthen the hearts of Imam Ali ra, Abu Bakar ra said: "O Ali, do not you say something like that. For Allah and His Messenger, and everything in this world is just like a mere dust-drenched!"
After the ongoing dialogue as needed, Abu Bakr ra succeeded in pushing the courage of Imam Ali r.a. to apply for a daughter of the Messenger of Allah s.a.w.
Some time later, the Imam Ali r.a. came to the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. that when it was at the residence of Umm Salma. Hearing a knock at the door, Umm Salma asked the Apostle of Allah peace be upon him: "Who is knocking on the door?" Allah's Apostle s.a.w. replied: "Get up and opened the door for him. He was a beloved of Allah and His Messenger, and he loves Allah and His Messenger!" Answer of the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. Umm Salma was not satisfactory r.a. He asked again: "Yes, but who is he?". "He's my brother, my favorite person!" Replied the Holy Prophet
Listed in a lot of history, that Umm Salma later recounts his own experiences regarding the visit of Imam Ali ra to the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. it: "I stood up quickly toward the door, until my feet stumbling. Once the doors opened, it turns out it was people who came to Ali bin Abi Talib. I went back into place. He entered, then say hello and answered by Apostle God saw He was invited to sit in front of him. Ali bin Abi Talib lowered his head, as if to have an intention, but shame about to say it.
Apostle of God precedes said: "O Ali seems you have a need. Say what is in fikiranmu. What you need, will you got me!"
Hear the words of the Apostle of Allah s.a.w. such that, born Ali ibn Abi Talib courage to say: "Forgive, O Messenger of God. You may recall that you have taken me from your uncle, Abu Talib and your aunt, Fatima bint Asad, at a time when I was a child and not understand anything.
Verily Allah has given me through your hidayat well. And you, O Messenger of Allah, is where I take shelter and you, too, who became wasilahku in the world and the hereafter. After God raise me and is now an adult, I want to settle down, live with a wife. Now I come face to apply for your daughter, Fatima. O Messenger of God, are you willing to accept and marry me with him? "
Umm Salma continued his story: "When I saw the Messenger of Allah visible face beaming. With a smile he said to Ali bin Abi Talib:" O Ali, do you have a stock dowry?''. "By Allah", Ali bin Abi Talib replied bluntly, "You yourself know how things were, no anything about me you did not know. I do not have anything other than a suit of armor, a sword and a camel."
"About your sword," said the Messenger of Allah s.a.w. my answer Ali bin Abi Talib, "you still need to continue the struggle in the way of Allah. And untamu that you also need to take water for your family's needs and also you need it in a long journey. Therefore I will marry you only on the basis of a dowry armor only. I'm satisfied to receive the goods from you. O Ali you shall rejoice, for Allah 'Azza wajalla first actually marry you in the sky before I marry you on earth! " Similarly, the version history as told Umm Salma ra
Once everything is ready, with a sense of satisfaction and joy, witnessed by the Companions, the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him words final offer wedding kabul daughter: "Behold, God Almighty commanded me to marry you on the basis of Fatima's dowry 400 dirhams (the value of a suit of armor). I hope you can accept that." "Yes, Messenger of God, that I received very well", said Ali bin Abi Talib ra the wedding. (Imam Ali - Al-Hamid Al-Husaini)
(Source: Bulletin Rabithoh Edition-22)
16 January 2011
Applicarion of Marriage (Khitbah)
According to Sayyed Sabiq "proposal represents a preliminary step toward an arranged marriage between a man and a woman. " (Fiqh Sunnah)
According to KHI
Proposal is the activity of the efforts towards the occurrence of an arranged marriage relationship between a man and a woman premises in ways that either / ma 'ruf. (Article letter a)
Criteria women who dipinang based Prophetic hadith narrated by muttafaq 'alaih from the ashes of which is due Hurayrah:
1. The offspring
2. Treasure
3. Beauty
4. And his religion
Basic woo is QS.Al-Baqarah verse 235
"And there is no sin for you woo the ladies with the sarcasm or you hide (the desire to marry them) in your hearts. He knows that you will mention to them, in the meantime do not set up an appointment to marry them in secret, except just say (to them) words that kindness. And ye shall berazam (bertetap liver) to berakad marriage, before their term runs out. And know that Allah knows what is in your hearts: and fear Him, and know that Allah is Oft-Forgiving Clement. "
According to KHI
Proposal is the activity of the efforts towards the occurrence of an arranged marriage relationship between a man and a woman premises in ways that either / ma 'ruf. (Article letter a)
Criteria women who dipinang based Prophetic hadith narrated by muttafaq 'alaih from the ashes of which is due Hurayrah:
1. The offspring
2. Treasure
3. Beauty
4. And his religion
Basic woo is QS.Al-Baqarah verse 235
"And there is no sin for you woo the ladies with the sarcasm or you hide (the desire to marry them) in your hearts. He knows that you will mention to them, in the meantime do not set up an appointment to marry them in secret, except just say (to them) words that kindness. And ye shall berazam (bertetap liver) to berakad marriage, before their term runs out. And know that Allah knows what is in your hearts: and fear Him, and know that Allah is Oft-Forgiving Clement. "
Proposal Nikah
Background
Mother and father that I respect, I love and care, may God always bless our steps and not a dotted give pleasure to us. Amen
Mother and father are very sebagaihamba God .. I respect, I have been given many blessings. True God Almighty has said: "We will show us the signs on the horizon-horizon and within themselves, so they can know clearly that God is true and Seer of all things."
Favors the disposition of which is a biological need, need each other to the opposite sex .. namely: Married! Nature of God which has been attached to human life, and if people violate the nature of the gift of God, is the destruction of the obtainment .. Na'udzubillah! And God has said: "Do not approach adultery, because adultery is bad again dirty deeds" (Surat al-Israa ': 32).
Mother and Father .. loved seeing the young association dewasaitu very worrying indeed, they seemed unconsciously doing immoral deeds to God. As if, pat on the head they are just the thoughts that lead to artificial and momentary happiness. Not to mention if you asked them about getting married. "I was not thinking about married, busy work, and besides I still collect stuff first," or work not yet well established, yet quite ready to settle ยก ย จ once they say, but what the heck they lack. Hopefully I can survive and be patient so that no sinner. And Allaah knows best.
.. Dear mother and father talked about the association of young people who tend to be free in general, it was not enough for me torehkan this ink. Every time I write a young event dimajalah Islam, at the same time there is also a new event that demands our attention Astaghfirullah .. .. Mother and father .. This is such a background I want to hasten to marry.
Rationale
From Al Qur ยก ย ฆ's and Al Hadith:
1. 'And nikahkanlah people who are alone among you, and those worthy (married) of a male slave sahayamu and sahayamu servants are women. IF THEY POOR GOD BE WITH THEM MENGKAYAKAN grace. And Allah Area (gift) and All-Knowing. (Surah An Nuur (24): 32).
2. "And we made everything in pairs, so you remember the greatness of God." (Surat adh Dzariyaat (51): 49).
3. ย จ Blessed is He who has created-pasangansemuanya pair, both from what is grown on the earth and of themselves and of what they do not know ยก ย จ (Surah Ya Sin (36): 36).
4. For those of you that God created pairs (the wives) of your own kind, then from your wives that He created for you children and grandchildren descent, and to you He has given the good fortune (Surah An Nahl (16) : 72).
5. And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and maketh among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for those who think. (Surah Ar. Rum (30): 21).
6. And those who believe, men and women, They will (are) to be protective (helper) for sebahagian another. They told (doing) that ma'ruf, preventing from the munkar, establish prayer, pay the obligatory charity, and they obey God and His Messenger. They were akandiberi grace of God Allah is Mighty, Wise (Surah At-Tauba (9): 71).
7. O people, bertaqwalah you all to your Lord who created you one himself, then he made thereof soul mate, then He kembangbiakkan be men and women who are many. (Surah An Nisa (4): 1).
8. Women are good for is a good man. A good man is good for women too (and vice versa). For them forgiveness and abundant Reski (ie Paradise) (Surat an Nuur (24): 26).
9. .. So nikahilah women (other) you like two, three, or four. Then if ye fear that ye can not do justice, then (nikahilah) only one .. (Surah An Nisaa '(4): third).
10. And it is not proper for the Believers, men nor for women who mukminah when Allah and His Messenger have set an assessment will be there for them other choices about their affairs. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Apostle then surely he has committed clear error. (Surat al-Ahzaab (33): 36).
11. Suggestions for Married Prophet: The Prophet SAW said: "Nikah was sunnahku, anyone who does not like, not from!" (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, from A'ishah).
12. Four kinds of Sunnah-sunnah of the Apostles are: Compassionate, wearing perfume, bersiwak and married (Narrated by Tirmidhi).
13. From Ayesha, 'Nikahilah ye women, then they will bring in wealth (fortune) for you ยก ย จ (narrated by Hakim and Abu Dawood). 14.Jika there are people not living with her partner, it means his life will be lame and do not walk in accordance with the provisions of Allah and those who married means complete religion, the word of Prophet Muhammad: "Whoever has God given a wife who Sholihah, actually has helped half of his religion. And let the other half devoted to God. '(Narrated by al-Bayhaqi).
14. From Amr ibn As, the World is the best jewelry and women's jewelry is shalihat. (Narrated by Muslim, Ibn Majah and An Nasai).
15. "Three groups are entitled to be helped by Allah (Narrated by Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibbaan and Justice): a.Orang who fought / fight in the way of Allah. B.yang redeem himself from his master. C. / i are getting married because she wants to distance himself from the illegitimate. "
16. "O young people! If among you are able to marry, let him marry, because the eye will be more awake, the pubic would be preserved." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud.)
17. Kawinlah with a woman who loves you and is able to give birth. Indeed I will boast of you as a people in most (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
18. You marry each other, make mutual keturunanlah you, and perbanyaklah (descent). Indeed I am proud of the many in number at the middle of another race (Narrated by Abdurrazak and Bayhaqi).
19. Prayers 2 cycles of diamalkan people who are married better, than 70 cycles are diamalkan by the bachelor (or virgin) (Narrated Ibn Al Kamil Ady in the book of Abu Hurairah).
20. Prophet Muhammad. He said: "That bad, bad you, is unmarried, and sehina insulted your body, is not married" (Narrated by Bukhari.)
21. Among the worst of all you are celibate, and the death of you all the most despicable is the death of people who choose to live celibate (Narrated by Abu Ya ยก ย ฆ He and Thabrani).
22. From Anas, the Prophet SAW. have said: Those who want to meet Allah in a state of pure clean again, then kawinkanlah with respectable women. (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, da'eef).
23. Rasulullah SAW said: Kawinkanlah people who are still alone among you. Verily, Allah will edify, extend sustenance, and add to their grandeur (Al Hadith).
Destination Weddings
1. Implement the commands of Allah and Sunnah.
2. Continuing generation of Muslims as carrier Islamic message.
3. Realising Muslim family towards the Muslim community.
4. Getting the love and affection.
5. Peace of Soul by maintaining self-respect (refrain from immoral acts / behavior of other despicable).
6. To be rich (the best richness is the wife who shalihat).
7. Broadening the kinship (connecting rope Hospitality / strengthen kinship ties)
Personal Readiness
1. Qalb condition that has been steadily and increasingly confident after istikharah. Prophet Muhammad. He said: ยก ยง Man Jadda wa Jadda ยก ย จ (Who seriously he will work through those obstacles.)
2. Including compulsory marriage (hard to shaum).
3. Termasuktathhir (purify themselves).
4. Materially, Insha Allah ready. ยก ยง Let the people who are able to give their living according to his ability ยก ย จ (Surat at THALAQ (65): 7)
Due to delay or complicate Weddings
ยง Damage and moral decay due to dating and free sex.
Delayed birth of the next generation ยง treatise.
ยง No composure of spirit and feeling, as the new God give peace and compassion for people who get married.
Bearing ยง sin in the Hereafter, because they do not get married while doing duty that Allah and His Messenger conditions set are met.
Moreover ยง contact with the opposite sex who is not mahramnya. Prophet Muhammad. said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, he must not bersunyi quiet alone with a woman who is not accompanied by mahramnya, for which a third party is the devil." (Narrated by Ahmad) and "It's one of the head of you being stabbed with needles of iron is better, than women who are not permitted to touch him" (Narrated by Thabrani and Bayhaqi) .. Astaghfirullahaladzim .. Na'udzubillahi min dzalik
However, it generally happens in the community surrounding the marriage is as following
ย ท no longer the noble status of taqwa, but that carried the title: Ir, DR, SE SH, ST, etc.
ย ท wedding a wah / bride-price is high, because it is a pride, not a full ketawadhu'an held in accordance with capabilities. (Marriage should based solely seeking pleasure of Allah and His Messenger.'s Not in interfere with the pleasure of hope darimanusia (flattery, they say bad). .. I'm sure if God pleased at what we do, then we will be safe in the world and in the Hereafter).
ย ท Marriage is considered a barrier to please parents.
ย ท Society considers marriage will be making studies, but just with vision to marry more awake than things that are forbidden, and the spirit of completing college.
Improve Intention:
Innamal a'malu binniyat ....... Intention is the resurrection of soul and trends in what appeared to him in the form demanded an important goal for her, either immediate or deferred.
Intention When Choosing Assistance
Prophet said "Whoever is married (her daughter) because the glare of riches despite his bad faith and ruqyah, it will never dibarakahi his wedding, Who married a woman because of his position, God will add to her humiliation, Who would marry her because of wealth, God will only give her poverty, Who married a good woman because nasabnya, God will add humility to him, But who was married just because you want to keep the views and desires or because they want to deepen compassion, God always gives kebarakahan blessings and add it to her. "( HR. Thabrani.)
"Do not marry a woman because of her beauty, just maybe beauty it makes you despicable. Do not you marry a woman because property / his throne might be treasure / throne made you exceed the limit. However nikahilah women because of his religion. Because, a pious slave woman who, though ugly face is more mainstream. " (Narrated by Ibnu Majah).
Prophet SAW. He said: Do not you marry a close relative, because (consequently) a weak to bear children (both intellect and physical) (Al Hadith).
From Jabir r.a., Lo Prophet. had said, ยก ยง fact that women marry men because of his religion, position, wealth, and beauty, so choose a religion. "(Narrated by Muslim and Tirmidhi.) Intention of Marriage Process
Problems do not stop until the vote intention companion. Intention still accompany various matters pertaining to the wedding. Starting from giving dowry, spread walimah invitations, organizing walimah. Walimah more than two days closer to harm, being walimah third day including riya '. "Give mahr (dowry) to the woman (who you marry) as a gift with great eagerness." (Surat An Nisaa (4): 4).
Rasulullah SAW said: "Women are the most sublime barakahnya, is the lightest maharnya" (Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi with a saheeh chain). From Aisha, that the Prophet SAW. hath said, 'Surely the great blessings of marriage is a simple shopping (maharnya) "(Narrated by Ahmad). Prophet Muhammad had promised: "Do not mempermahal value of dowry. Surely if he was noble in the world and piety in Allah, the Prophet himself who would become her marriage guardian." (Narrated by Ashhabus Sunan.) From Anas, he said: "Abu Talha married with dowry of Umm Sulaim become Muslim" (Ditakhrij of An Nasa'i) .. Subhanallah ..
The process of marriage affects intention. The process is simple and easy wedding, God willing, will bring the net intent, facilitate the process of marriage can clear intention. While the wedding will make the process more mengkotori intentions. "Please cut the celebration even if only one goat." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
Weddings must fulfill the criteria Lillah, Billah, and Ilallah. What is meant Lillah, intention is that marriage must be because of God. The process and the way he must Billah in accordance with provisions of God .. Included in the selection of candidates, and the process toward the level of marriage (net of courtship / lust or not). Last Ilallah, the goal in order to reach keridhoan God.
So in the administration of marriage is not adulterous in God, for example: the separation between male and female guests, no exaggeration, do not eat standing up (courtesy of food-party standing in the community usually this should be avoided, but it is not exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad that such ), Bride is not juxtaposed, adab mendo'akan bride with a prayer: Barokallahu baroka laka wa 'alaikum wa jama'a baynakuma Khoir FII .. (May Allah membarakahi you and bestow blessings to you), do not shake hands with the opposite gender, not excessively ornate ("And do not bertabarruj (decorated) as the first tabarrujnya ignorance" - Qs. Al-Ahzab (33),
Reaching spiritual Weddings
If someone is already filled with love and longing in God, then he will try to find someone who is together with them. Psychologically, a person will feel calm and at ease if side by side with the same person with him, either dalamperasaan, outlook on life and so forth. Therefore, blessed are someone who can feel the love of God from his life partner, that person is in the heart of God is fully present. They loved each other rather than on behalf of themselves, but in the name of God and for God.
How wonderful meeting of two beings who love and miss God's. Their marriage is not merely a meeting of two different personality types, but the confluence of two who are pursuing a spiritual journey towards God, love their loved ones. That is what is meant by spiritual marriage. If we QUALITY IN SIDE GOD, SURE WHICH ONE WILL ALSO COME (FOR OUR Soul Mate) WHICH BERKUALITASPULA (Al Izzah 18 / Th. 2)
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'O, believers! Do not forbid what was permitted by God to you and do not exceed the limits, because God does not love to those who exceed the limits. (Surah al Maidaah (5): 87).
Because actual ease after difficulty there. And indeed there is ease hardship (Surah Nasyrah Nature (94): 5 - 6).
Mother and father that I respect, my dear and I love the name of Allah .. demikanlah this proposal (by nature) I write. I really hope that mother and father .. understand my desire. Top blessing and prayer from Mother and Father .. I say "Jazakumullah Khairan katsiira". "O Allah, make me pleased to anything that you set and make the blessing what telahEngkau destined, so it does not want me to hasten what you delay and put off what you segerakan YA .. IN GOD Give reward MUSIBAHKU and replace Dion TIMES THIS BETTER .. Amiin THEREOF "
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Mother and father that I respect, I love and care, may God always bless our steps and not a dotted give pleasure to us. Amen
Mother and father are very sebagaihamba God .. I respect, I have been given many blessings. True God Almighty has said: "We will show us the signs on the horizon-horizon and within themselves, so they can know clearly that God is true and Seer of all things."
Favors the disposition of which is a biological need, need each other to the opposite sex .. namely: Married! Nature of God which has been attached to human life, and if people violate the nature of the gift of God, is the destruction of the obtainment .. Na'udzubillah! And God has said: "Do not approach adultery, because adultery is bad again dirty deeds" (Surat al-Israa ': 32).
Mother and Father .. loved seeing the young association dewasaitu very worrying indeed, they seemed unconsciously doing immoral deeds to God. As if, pat on the head they are just the thoughts that lead to artificial and momentary happiness. Not to mention if you asked them about getting married. "I was not thinking about married, busy work, and besides I still collect stuff first," or work not yet well established, yet quite ready to settle ยก ย จ once they say, but what the heck they lack. Hopefully I can survive and be patient so that no sinner. And Allaah knows best.
.. Dear mother and father talked about the association of young people who tend to be free in general, it was not enough for me torehkan this ink. Every time I write a young event dimajalah Islam, at the same time there is also a new event that demands our attention Astaghfirullah .. .. Mother and father .. This is such a background I want to hasten to marry.
Rationale
From Al Qur ยก ย ฆ's and Al Hadith:
1. 'And nikahkanlah people who are alone among you, and those worthy (married) of a male slave sahayamu and sahayamu servants are women. IF THEY POOR GOD BE WITH THEM MENGKAYAKAN grace. And Allah Area (gift) and All-Knowing. (Surah An Nuur (24): 32).
2. "And we made everything in pairs, so you remember the greatness of God." (Surat adh Dzariyaat (51): 49).
3. ย จ Blessed is He who has created-pasangansemuanya pair, both from what is grown on the earth and of themselves and of what they do not know ยก ย จ (Surah Ya Sin (36): 36).
4. For those of you that God created pairs (the wives) of your own kind, then from your wives that He created for you children and grandchildren descent, and to you He has given the good fortune (Surah An Nahl (16) : 72).
5. And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and maketh among you a sense of love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for those who think. (Surah Ar. Rum (30): 21).
6. And those who believe, men and women, They will (are) to be protective (helper) for sebahagian another. They told (doing) that ma'ruf, preventing from the munkar, establish prayer, pay the obligatory charity, and they obey God and His Messenger. They were akandiberi grace of God Allah is Mighty, Wise (Surah At-Tauba (9): 71).
7. O people, bertaqwalah you all to your Lord who created you one himself, then he made thereof soul mate, then He kembangbiakkan be men and women who are many. (Surah An Nisa (4): 1).
8. Women are good for is a good man. A good man is good for women too (and vice versa). For them forgiveness and abundant Reski (ie Paradise) (Surat an Nuur (24): 26).
9. .. So nikahilah women (other) you like two, three, or four. Then if ye fear that ye can not do justice, then (nikahilah) only one .. (Surah An Nisaa '(4): third).
10. And it is not proper for the Believers, men nor for women who mukminah when Allah and His Messenger have set an assessment will be there for them other choices about their affairs. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Apostle then surely he has committed clear error. (Surat al-Ahzaab (33): 36).
11. Suggestions for Married Prophet: The Prophet SAW said: "Nikah was sunnahku, anyone who does not like, not from!" (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, from A'ishah).
12. Four kinds of Sunnah-sunnah of the Apostles are: Compassionate, wearing perfume, bersiwak and married (Narrated by Tirmidhi).
13. From Ayesha, 'Nikahilah ye women, then they will bring in wealth (fortune) for you ยก ย จ (narrated by Hakim and Abu Dawood). 14.Jika there are people not living with her partner, it means his life will be lame and do not walk in accordance with the provisions of Allah and those who married means complete religion, the word of Prophet Muhammad: "Whoever has God given a wife who Sholihah, actually has helped half of his religion. And let the other half devoted to God. '(Narrated by al-Bayhaqi).
14. From Amr ibn As, the World is the best jewelry and women's jewelry is shalihat. (Narrated by Muslim, Ibn Majah and An Nasai).
15. "Three groups are entitled to be helped by Allah (Narrated by Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibbaan and Justice): a.Orang who fought / fight in the way of Allah. B.yang redeem himself from his master. C. / i are getting married because she wants to distance himself from the illegitimate. "
16. "O young people! If among you are able to marry, let him marry, because the eye will be more awake, the pubic would be preserved." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud.)
17. Kawinlah with a woman who loves you and is able to give birth. Indeed I will boast of you as a people in most (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
18. You marry each other, make mutual keturunanlah you, and perbanyaklah (descent). Indeed I am proud of the many in number at the middle of another race (Narrated by Abdurrazak and Bayhaqi).
19. Prayers 2 cycles of diamalkan people who are married better, than 70 cycles are diamalkan by the bachelor (or virgin) (Narrated Ibn Al Kamil Ady in the book of Abu Hurairah).
20. Prophet Muhammad. He said: "That bad, bad you, is unmarried, and sehina insulted your body, is not married" (Narrated by Bukhari.)
21. Among the worst of all you are celibate, and the death of you all the most despicable is the death of people who choose to live celibate (Narrated by Abu Ya ยก ย ฆ He and Thabrani).
22. From Anas, the Prophet SAW. have said: Those who want to meet Allah in a state of pure clean again, then kawinkanlah with respectable women. (Narrated by Ibnu Majah, da'eef).
23. Rasulullah SAW said: Kawinkanlah people who are still alone among you. Verily, Allah will edify, extend sustenance, and add to their grandeur (Al Hadith).
Destination Weddings
1. Implement the commands of Allah and Sunnah.
2. Continuing generation of Muslims as carrier Islamic message.
3. Realising Muslim family towards the Muslim community.
4. Getting the love and affection.
5. Peace of Soul by maintaining self-respect (refrain from immoral acts / behavior of other despicable).
6. To be rich (the best richness is the wife who shalihat).
7. Broadening the kinship (connecting rope Hospitality / strengthen kinship ties)
Personal Readiness
1. Qalb condition that has been steadily and increasingly confident after istikharah. Prophet Muhammad. He said: ยก ยง Man Jadda wa Jadda ยก ย จ (Who seriously he will work through those obstacles.)
2. Including compulsory marriage (hard to shaum).
3. Termasuktathhir (purify themselves).
4. Materially, Insha Allah ready. ยก ยง Let the people who are able to give their living according to his ability ยก ย จ (Surat at THALAQ (65): 7)
Due to delay or complicate Weddings
ยง Damage and moral decay due to dating and free sex.
Delayed birth of the next generation ยง treatise.
ยง No composure of spirit and feeling, as the new God give peace and compassion for people who get married.
Bearing ยง sin in the Hereafter, because they do not get married while doing duty that Allah and His Messenger conditions set are met.
Moreover ยง contact with the opposite sex who is not mahramnya. Prophet Muhammad. said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, he must not bersunyi quiet alone with a woman who is not accompanied by mahramnya, for which a third party is the devil." (Narrated by Ahmad) and "It's one of the head of you being stabbed with needles of iron is better, than women who are not permitted to touch him" (Narrated by Thabrani and Bayhaqi) .. Astaghfirullahaladzim .. Na'udzubillahi min dzalik
However, it generally happens in the community surrounding the marriage is as following
ย ท no longer the noble status of taqwa, but that carried the title: Ir, DR, SE SH, ST, etc.
ย ท wedding a wah / bride-price is high, because it is a pride, not a full ketawadhu'an held in accordance with capabilities. (Marriage should based solely seeking pleasure of Allah and His Messenger.'s Not in interfere with the pleasure of hope darimanusia (flattery, they say bad). .. I'm sure if God pleased at what we do, then we will be safe in the world and in the Hereafter).
ย ท Marriage is considered a barrier to please parents.
ย ท Society considers marriage will be making studies, but just with vision to marry more awake than things that are forbidden, and the spirit of completing college.
Improve Intention:
Innamal a'malu binniyat ....... Intention is the resurrection of soul and trends in what appeared to him in the form demanded an important goal for her, either immediate or deferred.
Intention When Choosing Assistance
Prophet said "Whoever is married (her daughter) because the glare of riches despite his bad faith and ruqyah, it will never dibarakahi his wedding, Who married a woman because of his position, God will add to her humiliation, Who would marry her because of wealth, God will only give her poverty, Who married a good woman because nasabnya, God will add humility to him, But who was married just because you want to keep the views and desires or because they want to deepen compassion, God always gives kebarakahan blessings and add it to her. "( HR. Thabrani.)
"Do not marry a woman because of her beauty, just maybe beauty it makes you despicable. Do not you marry a woman because property / his throne might be treasure / throne made you exceed the limit. However nikahilah women because of his religion. Because, a pious slave woman who, though ugly face is more mainstream. " (Narrated by Ibnu Majah).
Prophet SAW. He said: Do not you marry a close relative, because (consequently) a weak to bear children (both intellect and physical) (Al Hadith).
From Jabir r.a., Lo Prophet. had said, ยก ยง fact that women marry men because of his religion, position, wealth, and beauty, so choose a religion. "(Narrated by Muslim and Tirmidhi.) Intention of Marriage Process
Problems do not stop until the vote intention companion. Intention still accompany various matters pertaining to the wedding. Starting from giving dowry, spread walimah invitations, organizing walimah. Walimah more than two days closer to harm, being walimah third day including riya '. "Give mahr (dowry) to the woman (who you marry) as a gift with great eagerness." (Surat An Nisaa (4): 4).
Rasulullah SAW said: "Women are the most sublime barakahnya, is the lightest maharnya" (Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi with a saheeh chain). From Aisha, that the Prophet SAW. hath said, 'Surely the great blessings of marriage is a simple shopping (maharnya) "(Narrated by Ahmad). Prophet Muhammad had promised: "Do not mempermahal value of dowry. Surely if he was noble in the world and piety in Allah, the Prophet himself who would become her marriage guardian." (Narrated by Ashhabus Sunan.) From Anas, he said: "Abu Talha married with dowry of Umm Sulaim become Muslim" (Ditakhrij of An Nasa'i) .. Subhanallah ..
The process of marriage affects intention. The process is simple and easy wedding, God willing, will bring the net intent, facilitate the process of marriage can clear intention. While the wedding will make the process more mengkotori intentions. "Please cut the celebration even if only one goat." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
Weddings must fulfill the criteria Lillah, Billah, and Ilallah. What is meant Lillah, intention is that marriage must be because of God. The process and the way he must Billah in accordance with provisions of God .. Included in the selection of candidates, and the process toward the level of marriage (net of courtship / lust or not). Last Ilallah, the goal in order to reach keridhoan God.
So in the administration of marriage is not adulterous in God, for example: the separation between male and female guests, no exaggeration, do not eat standing up (courtesy of food-party standing in the community usually this should be avoided, but it is not exemplified by the Prophet Muhammad that such ), Bride is not juxtaposed, adab mendo'akan bride with a prayer: Barokallahu baroka laka wa 'alaikum wa jama'a baynakuma Khoir FII .. (May Allah membarakahi you and bestow blessings to you), do not shake hands with the opposite gender, not excessively ornate ("And do not bertabarruj (decorated) as the first tabarrujnya ignorance" - Qs. Al-Ahzab (33),
Reaching spiritual Weddings
If someone is already filled with love and longing in God, then he will try to find someone who is together with them. Psychologically, a person will feel calm and at ease if side by side with the same person with him, either dalamperasaan, outlook on life and so forth. Therefore, blessed are someone who can feel the love of God from his life partner, that person is in the heart of God is fully present. They loved each other rather than on behalf of themselves, but in the name of God and for God.
How wonderful meeting of two beings who love and miss God's. Their marriage is not merely a meeting of two different personality types, but the confluence of two who are pursuing a spiritual journey towards God, love their loved ones. That is what is meant by spiritual marriage. If we QUALITY IN SIDE GOD, SURE WHICH ONE WILL ALSO COME (FOR OUR Soul Mate) WHICH BERKUALITASPULA (Al Izzah 18 / Th. 2)
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'O, believers! Do not forbid what was permitted by God to you and do not exceed the limits, because God does not love to those who exceed the limits. (Surah al Maidaah (5): 87).
Because actual ease after difficulty there. And indeed there is ease hardship (Surah Nasyrah Nature (94): 5 - 6).
Mother and father that I respect, my dear and I love the name of Allah .. demikanlah this proposal (by nature) I write. I really hope that mother and father .. understand my desire. Top blessing and prayer from Mother and Father .. I say "Jazakumullah Khairan katsiira". "O Allah, make me pleased to anything that you set and make the blessing what telahEngkau destined, so it does not want me to hasten what you delay and put off what you segerakan YA .. IN GOD Give reward MUSIBAHKU and replace Dion TIMES THIS BETTER .. Amiin THEREOF "
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Some Wisdom Marriage and the Shari'a
"Indeed, if a husband looked at his wife (with love & affection) and his wife also looked at her husband (with love & affection), then God will look at both with the view of love & affection. And if a man clutching fingers of his wife (with love & affection) then berjatuhanlah the sins of all fingers of both of them "(Narrated by Abu Sa'id)
"Prayers 2 cycles of diamalkan people who have married better, than 70 cycles are diamalkan by the bachelor (or virgin)" (Narrated by Ibn Ady in the book Al-Kamil of Abu Hurairah)
"And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and maketh among you a sense of love and affection. Indeed, in this really are Signs for those who think "(Ar-Rum 21)
"And nikahkanlah people who are alone among you, and people who are worthy (married) of a male sahayamu servants and slaves sahayamu a woman. IF THEY POOR GOD BE WITH THEM MENGKAYAKAN grace. And Allah Area (gift ) and the All-Knowing. (An Nuur 32)
"And we made everything in pairs, so that you remember the greatness of God" (adh Dzariyaat 49)
"Do not approach adultery, because adultery is heinous act and an evil way" (Al-Isra 32)
"He Who created you from one person, then from him He created his wife, in order to become fit and peaceful to him" (Al-A'raf 189)
"The women who are cruel to the cruel men, and men of evil is for those women who vile (too), and good women are for good men and good men is for women who are good (too) "(An-Nur 26th)
'Give mahr (dowry) to women (who you marry) as a gift with the full compliance' (An Nisaa: 4),
"Marriage is sunnahku, anyone who does not like, not my lineage" (Narrated by Ibn Majah, from 'A'ishah)
"Four kinds of Sunnah-sunnah of the Apostles are: Compassionate, wearing perfume, bersiwak and married" (Narrated by Tirmidhi)
'Do not be a man two-Duan (seclusion) with a girl, because third parties are syaithan' (Al Hadith)
'O youth, whoever of you who have been able to marry, then let him marry. As with marriage to lower his gaze was more and more to keep genitals. And he who has not been capable of, then let him fast, because the fast it can actually be a shield for him "(Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim)
"Do not be a male and female seclusion, for syaithan accompanied him. Let not one of our seclusion, unless she was accompanied mahramnya" (Narrated by Imam Bukhari and Muslim faith from Abdullah Ibn Abbas).
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Days, he must not do seclusion with a woman who is not accompanied mahramnya, because actually the third is the devil" (Al Hadith)
"The world is full of God made jewelry, jewelry and the best life is the wife who Sholihah" (Narrated by Muslim)
"If you come (apply) to you people who you enjoy religion and ruqyah, then nikahkanlah she (the daughter). If you do not accept (proposal) it would be evil in the earth and widespread damage" (Reported by At-Turmidzi)
'He who is given a wife who Sholihah by God, means been helped by him on half of his religion. Therefore, he should be pious in the other half "(Al Hadith)
"Be the best wife. As good as possible and wife, if her husband is considered fun, if he obeyed orders, if a husband is not there, she keep her husband's estate and his guard of honor himself" (Al Hadith)
'The three groups are entitled to be helped by God: a. People who fought / fight in the way of Allah. B. Slaves who redeemed himself from his master. C. Youth who married because she wants to distance himself from the unclean "(Narrated by Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban and Judge)
'O young people! If among you have been able to get married, let him marry, because the eye will be more awake, the pubic would be preserved' (narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud)
'Kawinlah with women who love and are capable of lambing. Behold, I am proud of you as people will most "(narrated by Abu Dawood)
"You marry each other, make mutual keturunanlah you, and perbanyaklah (descent). Actually I was proud with many in number in the middle of another people" (Narrated by Abdurrazak and Bayhaqi)
"That bad, bad you, is not married, and sehina corpse insulted you, is not married" (Narrated by Bukhari)
"Among the worst of you are living single, and the death of you all the most despicable is the death of people who choose to live celibate" (Narrated by Abu Ya ¡| la and Thabrani)
"From Anas, the Prophet SAW. Once said: He who would meet Allah in a state of pure clean again, then kawinkanlah with respectable women" (Narrated by Ibn Majah, da'eef)
'Rasulullah SAW said: Kawinkanlah people still alone among you. Verily, Allah will edify, extend the provision, and adds nobleness them "(Al Hadith)
"Those who marry (his daughter) because the glare of riches despite his bad faith and ruqyah, then the marriage will never dibarakahi Him, Who is married to a woman because of his position, God will add to her humiliation, Who would marry her because of wealth, God only will give her poverty, Who married a good woman because nasabnya, God will add humility to him, but who is getting married just because you want to keep the views and desires, or because they want to deepen love, God continues to give blessings and add kebarakahan it to him "(Narrated Thabrani )
"Do not marry a woman because of her beauty, just maybe it makes you despicable beauty. Do not you marry a woman because property / his throne might be treasure / throne makes you exceed the limit. However nikahilah women because of his religion. Therefore, a pious slave woman who, despite his bad is the more mainstream "(Narrated by Ibn Majah)
"From Jabir ra, In fact the Prophet Muhammad. Hath said: Verily she was married person because of his religion, position, wealth, and beauty, then choose a religion" (Narrated by Muslim and Tirmidhi)
"Women are the most sublime barakahnya, is the lightest maharnya" (Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi with a saheeh isnaad)
"Do not mempermahal value of dowry. Surely if he was glorious in the world and piety in Allah, the Messenger of Allah alone who will be the guardian marriage. (Narrated by Ashhabus Sunan)
'Indeed the great blessing of marriage is the simple shopping (maharnya) "(Narrated by Ahmad)
'From Anas, he said: "Abu Talha married with a dowry of Umm Sulaim become Muslim' (Ditakhrij of An Nasa'i)
"Hold the celebration even if just cutting a goat." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
Quoted from on pernikahan.com
"Prayers 2 cycles of diamalkan people who have married better, than 70 cycles are diamalkan by the bachelor (or virgin)" (Narrated by Ibn Ady in the book Al-Kamil of Abu Hurairah)
"And among the signs of His power is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel at ease to him, and maketh among you a sense of love and affection. Indeed, in this really are Signs for those who think "(Ar-Rum 21)
"And nikahkanlah people who are alone among you, and people who are worthy (married) of a male sahayamu servants and slaves sahayamu a woman. IF THEY POOR GOD BE WITH THEM MENGKAYAKAN grace. And Allah Area (gift ) and the All-Knowing. (An Nuur 32)
"And we made everything in pairs, so that you remember the greatness of God" (adh Dzariyaat 49)
"Do not approach adultery, because adultery is heinous act and an evil way" (Al-Isra 32)
"He Who created you from one person, then from him He created his wife, in order to become fit and peaceful to him" (Al-A'raf 189)
"The women who are cruel to the cruel men, and men of evil is for those women who vile (too), and good women are for good men and good men is for women who are good (too) "(An-Nur 26th)
'Give mahr (dowry) to women (who you marry) as a gift with the full compliance' (An Nisaa: 4),
"Marriage is sunnahku, anyone who does not like, not my lineage" (Narrated by Ibn Majah, from 'A'ishah)
"Four kinds of Sunnah-sunnah of the Apostles are: Compassionate, wearing perfume, bersiwak and married" (Narrated by Tirmidhi)
'Do not be a man two-Duan (seclusion) with a girl, because third parties are syaithan' (Al Hadith)
'O youth, whoever of you who have been able to marry, then let him marry. As with marriage to lower his gaze was more and more to keep genitals. And he who has not been capable of, then let him fast, because the fast it can actually be a shield for him "(Narrated by Bukhari, Muslim)
"Do not be a male and female seclusion, for syaithan accompanied him. Let not one of our seclusion, unless she was accompanied mahramnya" (Narrated by Imam Bukhari and Muslim faith from Abdullah Ibn Abbas).
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Days, he must not do seclusion with a woman who is not accompanied mahramnya, because actually the third is the devil" (Al Hadith)
"The world is full of God made jewelry, jewelry and the best life is the wife who Sholihah" (Narrated by Muslim)
"If you come (apply) to you people who you enjoy religion and ruqyah, then nikahkanlah she (the daughter). If you do not accept (proposal) it would be evil in the earth and widespread damage" (Reported by At-Turmidzi)
'He who is given a wife who Sholihah by God, means been helped by him on half of his religion. Therefore, he should be pious in the other half "(Al Hadith)
"Be the best wife. As good as possible and wife, if her husband is considered fun, if he obeyed orders, if a husband is not there, she keep her husband's estate and his guard of honor himself" (Al Hadith)
'The three groups are entitled to be helped by God: a. People who fought / fight in the way of Allah. B. Slaves who redeemed himself from his master. C. Youth who married because she wants to distance himself from the unclean "(Narrated by Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban and Judge)
'O young people! If among you have been able to get married, let him marry, because the eye will be more awake, the pubic would be preserved' (narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Ibn Mas'ud)
'Kawinlah with women who love and are capable of lambing. Behold, I am proud of you as people will most "(narrated by Abu Dawood)
"You marry each other, make mutual keturunanlah you, and perbanyaklah (descent). Actually I was proud with many in number in the middle of another people" (Narrated by Abdurrazak and Bayhaqi)
"That bad, bad you, is not married, and sehina corpse insulted you, is not married" (Narrated by Bukhari)
"Among the worst of you are living single, and the death of you all the most despicable is the death of people who choose to live celibate" (Narrated by Abu Ya ¡| la and Thabrani)
"From Anas, the Prophet SAW. Once said: He who would meet Allah in a state of pure clean again, then kawinkanlah with respectable women" (Narrated by Ibn Majah, da'eef)
'Rasulullah SAW said: Kawinkanlah people still alone among you. Verily, Allah will edify, extend the provision, and adds nobleness them "(Al Hadith)
"Those who marry (his daughter) because the glare of riches despite his bad faith and ruqyah, then the marriage will never dibarakahi Him, Who is married to a woman because of his position, God will add to her humiliation, Who would marry her because of wealth, God only will give her poverty, Who married a good woman because nasabnya, God will add humility to him, but who is getting married just because you want to keep the views and desires, or because they want to deepen love, God continues to give blessings and add kebarakahan it to him "(Narrated Thabrani )
"Do not marry a woman because of her beauty, just maybe it makes you despicable beauty. Do not you marry a woman because property / his throne might be treasure / throne makes you exceed the limit. However nikahilah women because of his religion. Therefore, a pious slave woman who, despite his bad is the more mainstream "(Narrated by Ibn Majah)
"From Jabir ra, In fact the Prophet Muhammad. Hath said: Verily she was married person because of his religion, position, wealth, and beauty, then choose a religion" (Narrated by Muslim and Tirmidhi)
"Women are the most sublime barakahnya, is the lightest maharnya" (Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi with a saheeh isnaad)
"Do not mempermahal value of dowry. Surely if he was glorious in the world and piety in Allah, the Messenger of Allah alone who will be the guardian marriage. (Narrated by Ashhabus Sunan)
'Indeed the great blessing of marriage is the simple shopping (maharnya) "(Narrated by Ahmad)
'From Anas, he said: "Abu Talha married with a dowry of Umm Sulaim become Muslim' (Ditakhrij of An Nasa'i)
"Hold the celebration even if just cutting a goat." (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim)
Quoted from on pernikahan.com
24 January 2009
Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun Ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21). The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.
Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.
Mahr
The marriage-gift (Mahr) is a divine injunction. The giving of mahr to the bride by the groom is an essential part of the contract.
'And give the women (on marriage) their mahr as a (nikah) free gift" (Quran 4:4)
Mahr is a token commitment of the husband's responsibility and may be paid in cash, property or movable objects to the bride herself. The amount of mahr is not legally specified, however, moderation according to the existing social norm is recommended. The mahr may be paid immediately to the bride at the time of marriage, or deferred to a later date, or a combination of both. The deferred mahr however, falls due in case of death or divorce.
One matrimonial party expresses 'ijab" willing consent to enter into marriage and the other party expresses 'qubul" acceptance of the responsibility in the assembly of marriage ceremony. The contract is written and signed by the bride and the groom and their two respective witnesses. This written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) is then announced publicly.
Sermon
The assembly of nikah is addressed with a marriage sermon (khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadi) officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid) and local government for record.
Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have marriage sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social responsibility.
The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102, 33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the marriage. This hadith is:
'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you all, I am the supermost to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari)
The Muslim officiating the marriage ceremony concludes the ceremony with prayer (Dua) for bride, groom, their respective families, the local Muslim community, and the Muslim community at large (Ummah)
Marriage (nikah) is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.
Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:
'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)
Primary Requirements
1) Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2) Two adult and sane witnesses
3) Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of both Secondary Requirements
1) Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2) Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3) Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person officiating the marriage ceremony)
4) Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage
The Marriage Banquet (Walima)
After the consummation of the marriage, the groom holds a banquet called a walima. The relatives, neighbors, and friends are invited in order to make them aware of the marriage. Both rich and poor of the family and community are invited to the marriage feasts.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
'The worst of the feasts are those marriage feasts to which the rich are invited and the poor are left out". (Mishkat)
It is recommended that Muslims attend marriage ceremonies and marriage feasts upon invitation.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
"...and he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage feast, verily disobeys Allah and His Prophet". (Ahmad & Abu Dawood)
Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.
Mahr
The marriage-gift (Mahr) is a divine injunction. The giving of mahr to the bride by the groom is an essential part of the contract.
'And give the women (on marriage) their mahr as a (nikah) free gift" (Quran 4:4)
Mahr is a token commitment of the husband's responsibility and may be paid in cash, property or movable objects to the bride herself. The amount of mahr is not legally specified, however, moderation according to the existing social norm is recommended. The mahr may be paid immediately to the bride at the time of marriage, or deferred to a later date, or a combination of both. The deferred mahr however, falls due in case of death or divorce.
One matrimonial party expresses 'ijab" willing consent to enter into marriage and the other party expresses 'qubul" acceptance of the responsibility in the assembly of marriage ceremony. The contract is written and signed by the bride and the groom and their two respective witnesses. This written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) is then announced publicly.
Sermon
The assembly of nikah is addressed with a marriage sermon (khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadi) officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid) and local government for record.
Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have marriage sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social responsibility.
The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102, 33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the marriage. This hadith is:
'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you all, I am the supermost to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari)
The Muslim officiating the marriage ceremony concludes the ceremony with prayer (Dua) for bride, groom, their respective families, the local Muslim community, and the Muslim community at large (Ummah)
Marriage (nikah) is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.
Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:
'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)
Primary Requirements
1) Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2) Two adult and sane witnesses
3) Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of both Secondary Requirements
1) Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2) Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3) Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person officiating the marriage ceremony)
4) Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage
The Marriage Banquet (Walima)
After the consummation of the marriage, the groom holds a banquet called a walima. The relatives, neighbors, and friends are invited in order to make them aware of the marriage. Both rich and poor of the family and community are invited to the marriage feasts.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
'The worst of the feasts are those marriage feasts to which the rich are invited and the poor are left out". (Mishkat)
It is recommended that Muslims attend marriage ceremonies and marriage feasts upon invitation.
Prophet Muhammad (S) said:
"...and he who refuses to accept an invitation to a marriage feast, verily disobeys Allah and His Prophet". (Ahmad & Abu Dawood)
07 January 2009
NIKAH KHUTBAH TRANSLATED
Thanks be to Allah that we praise Him, pray to Him for help; ask Him for pardon; we believe in Him, We trust Him; and ask Him to guard us from the evil of our own souls and from the evil consequences of our own deeds. Whomsoever He leaves straying no one can guide him. I bear witness that there is no God save Allah, who has no partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, whom He has sent with truth as a bringer of good news and a warner.
Now, after Hamd-o-Salat, the best word is the book of Allah, and the best way is that of Muhammad, on whom be peace. The worst of all things are innovations and every innovation leads astray, and every thing that leads astray leads to Hell.
Whosoever obeys Allah and His messenger will be guided aright and whosoever disobeys will cause loss to his own self (and thereafter). Hereafter, I ask the refuge of Allah from Shaitan, the outcast.
O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men and women. be careful of your duty towards Allah in whom you claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the wombs (that bear you). Lo, Allah hath been a watcher over you. [QURAN 4:1]
O ye who believe! Observe your duty to Allah with right observance, and die not save as those who have surrendered (unto Him). [QURAN 3:102]
O ye who believe! Guard your duty to Allah, and speak words straight to the point; He will adjust your works for you and will forgive you your sins. Whosoever obeyeth Allah and His messenger, he verily hath gained a signal victory. [QURAN 33:70-71]
FROM HAQ ISLAM
NIKAH (MARRIAGE)
Nikah, or nikkah, (Arabic: النكاح ), is the contract between a bride and bridegroom and part of an Islamic marriage, a strong covenant (Mitsaqon Gholizho) as expressed in Qur'an 4:21.
The first part of the marriage ceremony, nikah, is the signing of the marriage contract itself.
Various traditions may differ in how nikah is performed because different groups accept different texts as authoritative. Therefore, Sunnis will tend to accept Bukhari Hadith while Shia will have their own collections, for example Furu al-Kafi, thus producing different procedures. This contract requires the consent of both parties if they are adults. There is a tradition in some Muslim countries, outside of the religion, to pre-arrange a marriage for young children. However, the marriage still requires consent when the wedding actually goes ahead. A nikah allows both parties to add conditions. Islam does allow divorce (talaq) so this contract is revocable. Marriage is seen as a necessity in Islam and is seen as helpful in avoiding zina (extramarital sex) or cruelty. A marriage which is carried out unofficially without informing the public is called nikah urfi.
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Marriage is an act which completes and encompasses the many teachings of Islam. It has been thus narrated in a Hadeeth that when a person marries, he has complete half of his religion and so he should fear Allah regarding the remaining half.
Shame, modesty, moral and social values and control of self desire are just a few of the many teachings of Islam. Furthermore, these are just a few of the many worships that a person can complete by performing the ritual of marriage. Through marriage a person can be saved from many shameless and immoral sins and through marriage he has is more able to control his desire. Therefore, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has said:"O young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry,
for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty."[Saheeh al-Bukhari]
The creation of mankind has been made such that man requires a spouse to complete all that a man requires. Whilst Adam (Alayhis Salaam) was in Jannah he felt a particular loneliness and in response to this loneliness Allah Ta'ala created Hawa (Alayhas Salaam) as a companion for him. This clearly shows that Allah chose women to act as a companion for man and so that they can remove that loneliness and live in harmony. Allah has created our spouses from a part of us. It is a bond that is created by Allah Himself so that we can find peace and tranquillity within our spouses.
Allah has stated in Surah al-Rum:"And among His signs is that He has created for you mates from among yourselves,
that you may dwell in tranquillity with them;
and He has put love and mercy between you.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect."[Surah al-Rum - 30:21]
In conclusion, it is simple to deduce that marriage is a form of worship as well as a social necessity. We have been asked to increase the Ummah (followers) and the only permissible way in Islam is through Marriage.
Marriage is a strong oath that takes place between the man and women in this world, but its blessings and contract continues even in Jannah.
Marriage is the way of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam), and whosoever goes against this practice has been reprimanded.
Hadhrat Anas ibn Malik narrates:A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said:
"Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven."
Then one of them said: "I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever."
The other said: "I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast."
The third said: "I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever."
Allah's Apostle came to them and said,
"Are you the same people who said so-and-so?
By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you;
yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women.
So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (from my followers)."[Saheeh al-Bukhari]
Therefore, Islamically, we are all encouraged to get married and not turn away from the ways of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Salaam).
It should be remembered that this duty of marriage is for both men and women. Just as men complete half their religion through this act, it is also the same for women.
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1. Nikah is a great bounty from Allah Ta'ala. The affairs of this world and the hereafter are put in order through marriage. There is a lot of wisdom and many benefits in marriage. A person saves himself from sinning and his heart is put at ease. He does not have any evil intentions and his thoughts do not begin to wander and stray. The greatest virtue is that there are only benefits and only rewards in this. This is because a husband and wife’s sitting together and engaging in a loving conversation, joking with each other, etc. is better than nafl salat.
2. A marriage can be executed by just two words, e.g. a person says the following words in the presence of witnesses: "I give my daughter to you in marriage." The person who is addressed replies: "I accept her in marriage." In so doing, the marriage is valid and both of them are lawful husband and wife. However, if the person has several daughters, the nikah will not be executed by his uttering the words mentioned above. He will have to mention the daughter by name, e.g. he says : "I give my daughter, Qudsiyyah, to you in marriage", and the person replies : "I accept her in marriage."
3. A person says: "Give so-and-so daughter of yours to me in marriage." The father replies: "I give her to you in marriage." In so saying, the nikah will be valid irrespective of whether he says that he accepts or not. (In other words, it is not necessary for the word "accept" to be mentioned).
4. If the daughter is present and the father says: "I give this daughter of mine in marriage to you", and the person replies: "I accept her", the nikah will be valid. It will not be necessary to mention her name.
If the girl is not present, it is necessary to mention her name and the name of her father in such a loud tone that all the witnesses are able to hear. If the people do not know the father and there is a strong possibility that by mentioning his name they will still not know whose nikah is being performed, then it will be necessary to mention the name of the grand-father as well. In other words, such identification is necessary whereby those present immediately know whose nikah is being performed.
5. In order for a nikah to be valid, it is also essential for at least two males or one male and two females to be present, to hear the nikah being performed, and to hear the two words (i.e. the offer and the acceptance) being uttered. Only then will the nikah be valid. If two persons sit together in privacy and one says to the other : "I give my daughter to you in marriage" and the other person replies : "I accept your daughter", the nikah will not be valid. Similarly, if the nikah was performed in the presence of one person only, even then the nikah will not be valid.
6. If there are no males present, but only females, the nikah will not be valid even if there are ten females present. Together with two females, one male has to be present.
7. If there are two males but they are not Muslims, the nikah will not be valid. Similarly, if both are Muslims but both or one of them is immature, the nikah will not be valid. Similarly, if there is one male and two females but both or one of the females is immature, the nikah will not be valid.
8. It is preferable to perform the nikah in a large gathering such as after the jumu'ah salat in a jumu'ah musjid or in any other large gathering. This is so that the nikah will be well announced and the people will become aware of the nikah. A nikah should not be performed in secret and privacy. However, if due to some reason many persons are unable to attend, then at least two males or one male and two females who hear the nikah being performed in their very presence should be present.
9. If both the man and woman are mature, they can perform their own nikah. All that they have to do is say the following in the presence of two witnesses: One of them must say: "I am making my nikah with you" and the other must say : "I accept." In so doing, the nikah will be valid.
10. If a person does not make his nikah himself, but asks someone to perform his nikah with someone, or, he mentions the name of the person with whom he wishes his nikah to be performed and this person performs this nikah in the presence of two witnesses - the nikah will be valid. Even if this person rejects or denies this later, the nikah will still be intact.
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